Stefanie Gray, LCSW

My counseling work began almost 30 years ago as an undergraduate intern at a group home for young children in foster care. During this time, I earned my Bachelor's degree in Psychology from the University of North Carolina - Wilmington, followed by my Master's in Social Work from Fordham University - Lincoln Center. Along the way, I gained a range of clinical experiences, but I credit my time at Carrier Clinic, working with adolescents in residential treatment, for building the clinical foundation I still draw on today. For over 20 years, I have maintained my licensure as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker while working as an Elementary School Counselor/Social Worker in a nearby school district.

I am a member of the National Association of Social Workers (NASW) and the New Jersey School Counselor Association.

What inspired you to choose a career in social work / professional counseling? 

As a child, I was fortunate to have adults in my life who tuned into my emotional needs — who noticed not just what I said, but what I didn't. That experience stayed with me, and I knew I wanted to offer that same attunement to other children.

In college, while exploring my interests, I was first drawn to psychology, and that path eventually led me to clinical social work and all that it had to offer. Over time, identifying, and creatively addressing the emotional needs of children and their families grew into a skill: pinpointing the struggle, or crisis, and providing an opportunity for coping strategies, healing and change. Supporting the child and family dynamic as a whole — is what keeps me committed to this work.‍

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Can you describe any therapeutic modalities or techniques you use in clinical practice? 

In my clinical work, I draw from a variety of modalities and theories to create an eclectic, individualized treatment approach — pulling from CBT, humanistic and person-centered frameworks, solution-focused techniques, play-based interventions, and a strengths-based lens to meet each client's unique needs.

How would you describe your approach in practice?

I would describe my approach as affirming, warm, encouraging, and collaborative. I strive to create a non-judgmental space where children and families feel genuinely comfortable being themselves from the very first interaction.

Our first session is really about welcoming you into the safe space of my office. It's a time for me to get to know you and your child — not just the challenges you're facing, but who you are as a family. From there, we work together collaboratively to create goals that feel right for you, and are hopeful about achieving throughout the course of therapy.

What’s a hobby or interest you enjoy outside of work? 

Without a doubt, my favorite way to spend time outside of work is with my son. Whether it's bringing him to soccer practice or watching him play in a game, catching a movie together, or hanging out at the beach, our time together is most important. Honestly though, the best moments are often the simplest ones: slow weekends at home! Outside of that, I also value spending quality time with great friends — it keeps me balanced and reminds me to make space for connection and joy outside of work too.

Do you have a favorite book, movie, song or quote that inspires you?  

A quote that has truly inspired me throughout my career, and one I often find myself saying is: "crisis brings opportunity". Difficult times, and struggles often open up opportunities to try something different. 

A favorite book that I often recommend to families is The Grief Bubble by Kerry Debay. Grief and loss comes in many forms, and the explanation this book provides to children and families is simple, visual, tangible and encouraging. 

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